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Man and woman arguing at a table with attorneyWe often hear the phrase “high conflict divorce”, but what makes a divorce high conflict? In these situations, the parties are engaging in certain behaviors that could be described as negative or even toxic, with the intention to delay or stall the process and create unnecessary, emotional pain or hurt for the other party.

Alternatively, in low conflict divorce situations, couples are able to navigate their circumstances with an approach that reduces their emotional distress. These individuals avoid engaging in toxic and negative behaviors. They strive to achieve mutual respect and open communication to allow them to negotiate amicable resolutions that benefit everyone involved. 

In high conflict divorce scenarios, people are more dramatic, emotional and tend to be intentionally hurtful, erratic and difficult to predict. Sometimes these behaviors are not limited to their spouse but can be evident in their parenting by acting deliberately vindictive or vengeful to the other parent, and always blaming the other parent for whatever the negative outcome may be.

How to prepare for divorce emotionally

When preparing for divorce, in particular high conflict divorce, you have to ensure that you are addressing the necessary legal aspects. It is always the best approach to consult with a family law practitioner early on in the process. But there are other approaches that you can take to emotionally prepare for a high conflict divorce such as meeting with a therapist or attending a support group. It is important to have outlets during the divorce process so that you can stay calm during the divorce.

How do you stay strong in a divorce decision?

In a high conflict divorce situation, it can be difficult to stay strong. Oftentimes, it is easy to be persuaded by the other person or impacted in such a way that you may feel pressure to change your mind. Speak to your attorney and make sure that the decision that you are making is best for you and if you have children, make sure that the decision that you are making is best for everyone involved.

High conflict divorce mediation 

Mediation can be an excellent alternative to litigation. It is a method of alternative dispute resolution that can prove very helpful and cost-effective, as well as efficient so that people can more easily move forward with their lives. The problem with mediation and high conflict divorce situations is that oftentimes the person or people who are engaging in negative behavior, may also not be committed to the mediation process. In order for mediation to be successful, the parties have to both be willing to compromise and work towards an amicable resolution. Making a commitment to engaging in divorce without fighting is one step in the right direction. When working with a mediator, focusing on peaceful divorce solutions can help reduce the disputes and negative behavior.

Here at DeTorres & DeGeorge we focus on zealous advocacy for our clients and compassionate representation. If you are embarking on a high conflict divorce situation and you want to know how to handle the difficult aspects of divorce conflict, contact us today. We can answer your questions so that you feel prepared for your divorce conflict.

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