Years ago getting divorced was scandalous. A divorced woman was an outcast. Slowly public opinion changed. Divorceés became risqué, then they were simply disapproved of. Today getting a divorce is not something you’re going to be criticized for. But that doesn’t mean you’ve forgiven yourself.
It’s common to go through a period of reassessment when you get a divorce, during which you might mistakenly turn the blame on yourself. One of the stages of divorce recovery is self-blame, where you analyze your entire relationship and marriage and pick out all the things you think you did wrong. Just because this is a common thing to do doesn’t mean it’s right!
If you are very hard on yourself you might (wrongly) decide to pin the following labels on yourself. Now is the time to stop your negative thinking!
- Unfaithful. If you had a relationship outside your marriage it is just a sign that you were not happy in your marriage. You are not a bad person.
- Just because your ex no longer loves you does not mean no one else will ever love you. It means you are now free to find the person who is right for you and will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
- Everyone who gets a divorce argues. When a relationship is broken, tensions rise and your disagreements come to the forefront. When you are with the right person there will be no need for constant arguments.
- Just because you took a stand for what was right for you this does not mean you are difficult. Instead it means you are strong enough and wise enough to know what you need.
At DeTorres & DeGeorge, we work with you to resolve your divorce as smoothly as possible. Call us today for help with your case in the Bridgewater and Warren Township areas of New Jersey.