When you get a divorce, you might think you get a divorce from your ex’s entire family, but if you have children, that side of the family will be involved in your life for a very long time. Your child has an ongoing relationship with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. You will likely see these people at birthday parties, graduation parties, bridal showers, and baby showers in the years to come.
It may be useful to extend an olive branch to your child’s grandparents, to let them know you support their relationship with your child and hope that you can move forward and let the past be the past when it comes to the divorce. Everyone has hurt feelings and resentment, but if they can be set aside for your child’s benefit, everyone will be happier.
Consider the effects of your parenting plan. If you are the residential parent, it is likely your ex has limited parenting time. This may reduce your child’s contact with that family. Be considerate about changing the schedule to allow your ex to take your child to family events. If you have an ex who rarely uses his or her parenting time, you can reach out to the grandparents yourself and create some ongoing visits for your child so contact is not lost.
Try not to speak disparagingly about your in-laws to your child. They are part of your child’s family. Create a role in your child’s life for them, inviting them to school performances and sporting events when possible.
DeTorres & DeGeorge is ready to help with all of your custody and visitation needs.